Narcissistic/bordeline Parenting Styles

Our first training event of 2019 promises to be a very inviting one, Sarah Squires is an excellent trainer, read more below.

Sarah Squires – Attachment based approach to parental alienation (narcissistic/borderline parenting styles).

February 24th 2019 10am-4pm
NWCH Hub

Sarah’s background is social work (child protection). She set up her own business to tackle the issue of parental alienation and disordered parenting from a psycho-social position. She is dedicated to reducing the impact of disordered parenting and parental alienation by providing up to date, evidence based training for professionals working with children and families.

The days training will cover the following:
• Personality and attachment
• The driving engine of alienation
• The Role-Reversal Core
• Inducing Symptoms of parental alienation
• The Trauma Re-enactment Narrative
• The Child’s Experience

Tickets £80 + VAT for non-members
Tickets £60 + VAT for members

Get your ticket here

Another exciting event to tell you about is our second birthday event. It will be held at The Double Tree by Hilton Hotel, Lincoln. On the 30th March 2019, arrival at 7pm for a 7:30pm start.Enjoy a three course meal, live music, DJ and charity auction. Hear about how we have progressed since we were founded in March 2017 and celebrate our successes. Hear how we have helped change peoples lives for the better in our first two years of trading. We will have client stories and funding stories.
We will be joined by the Mayor and Mayoress, Councillor Keith Weaver and Mrs. Jacqueline Lane

All money raised goes to providing counselling to those who need it most.

Book your ticket now by clicking here

You can view all of our upcoming events here

Open Day

We are excited to have our second Open Day free to the general public and practitioners.

Please do come and see what NWCH is all about, anytime between 10am-4pm.

We are also showcasing how we have spent the new funding on renovating and creating more counselling rooms, if you came last year you will see a big difference! So it’s worth coming again!

See the counselling rooms, reception and the training room, meet some of the team and the therapy dogs – Toby & Ellie.

Feel free to ask us questions.

Our Open day is free to attend and refreshments will be provided – including cake!

Book your FREE ticket here

We have been super busy making renovations to our building so we can see more clients. We now have 9 counselling rooms, two waiting areas and a training room! We would love to show you all our progress by inviting you to our free open day – book your ticket here. We will be joined by the Mayor of Lincoln, Councillor Keith Weaver and the Mayoress, Ms. Jacqueline Lane.
Another exciting event to tell you about is our second birthday event. It will be held at The Double Tree by Hilton Hotel, Lincoln. On the 30th March 2019, arrival at 7pm for a 7:30pm start.

Enjoy a three course meal, live music, DJ and charity raffle. Hear about how we have progressed since we were founded in March 2017 and celebrate our successes. Hear how we have helped change peoples lives for the better in our first two years of trading. We will have client stories and funding stories.

All money raised goes to providing counselling to those who need it most.

Individual tickets are £45 each, or book a table of 8 for £320 and save £40!

Book your ticket now by clicking here

 

2018 closes, 2019 plans under way!

As 2018 draws to a close, the NWCH team are taking a moment to reflect on our progress so far.

Since April 2017, our fully qualified counsellors have supported nearly 700 people, around 50% of whom were children / young people. We have had some amazing client success stories and will showcase some of these at events in 2019.

The NWCH team is hugely proud to be making a difference and ultimately saving and changing lives.

But we are taking only a moment to reflect. Why? Because we are:

* planning our 2nd Birthday event –  2nd March 2019. Book tickets here
* seeking funds to enable us to offer free counselling to those most in need
* preparing The Hub open day – 2nd FEB 2019. Come and visit us here
* recruiting students onto our accredited counselling training courses
* planning 2019’s conference, following the success of MANCHAT 2018

Before reviewing NWCH’s 2018 highlights, we would like to say a huge thank you to everyone who works in and on the business for your unwavering support.

We simply couldn’t do it without you!

NWCH’s 2018 highlights

2018 got off to a flying start with our 1st BIRTHDAY GALA DINNER at Lincoln’s Hilton hotel, attended by Lincoln’s Mayor and the City Sheriff.

Throughout 2018, we shouted from the rooftops to raise awareness about NWCH’s unique services!  This included delivering ourMANCHAT CONFERENCE, where more than 100 delegates heard riveting talks by some of the UK’s top public speakers.

Hard working Ellie, one of our pet therapy dogs, attended CONFERENCES AND OPEN DAYS during the year to help us raise awareness about our services and the NCS ACCREDITED TRAINING COURSES we offer to student counsellors.

NWCH HAS NOW TRIPLED IN SIZE 

As awareness of NWCH grew, so did demand for our services.

Our phone never stops ringing!

We now get referrals from social services, the crisis team, Spring Lodge, schools, GPs, the police, the probation service, Macmillan nurses, drug and alcohol services, other charities, carers agencies, colleges, Lincoln University, to name but a few.

To try to meet demand, we took on a second building in Lincoln and opened a satellite Hub in Grimsby.  We now have 10 counselling rooms (we started with 3 in 2017), 2 staff rooms, 2 reception areas, offices and a training room – yet we still need more space!

COME AND VISIT US ON OUR OPEN DAY – click here.

We were thrilled to have been awarded funding from 3 major donors in 2018:
The National Lottery, Key Fund, and Bromhead Medical Charity (BMC).
      
BMC enables NWCH to provide free counselling to those who need it most, but cannot afford it.
The National Lottery enables NWCH to deliver The Snowdrop Project, supporting children and young people who have suffered rape or sexual abuse.
Key Fund enabled NWCH to expand our premises and employ a full-time Hub Coordinator, who hit the ground running in November.
We are immensely grateful for the support of these key donors, but would also like to acknowledge and thank everyone who has donated their time and money to NWCH since April 2017.

It is a never-ending pursuit to earn and raise more money to provide free counselling to those most in need. But the NWCH team believes that there will never be a more worthwhile pursuit!

MERRY CHRISTMAS AND HAPPY NEW YEAR
From all of the NWCH team below, we wish you a very
Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!

Updates and News

What a busy few months we have had! With new secured funding and projects, our first ever conference, training events and events coming up next year, where do we start?!


ManChat Conference

To put it simply, this was a huge success. We had six excellent speakers and three fabulous workshops. All the pictures are now on our FaceBook page, you can see them here

Feel free to tag yourselves and share away – what a fabulous day and thank you to all who came!

We have been super busy making renovations to our building so we can see more clients. We now have 9 counselling rooms, two waiting areas and a training room! We would love to show you all our progress by inviting you to our free open day – book your ticket here. We will be joined by the Mayor of Lincoln, Councillor Keith Weaver the Mayoress, Ms. Jacqueline Lane and the City Sheriff and Sheriff’s Lady, Mr. Roy and Mrs. Sandra South.

Another exciting event to tell you about is our second birthday event. It will be held at The Double Tree by Hilton Hotel, Lincoln. 

On the 2rd March 2018, arrival at 7pm for a 7:30pm start.

Enjoy a three course meal, live music, DJ and charity auction. Hear about how we have progressed since we were founded in March 2017 and celebrate our successes. Hear how we have helped change peoples lives for the better in our first two years of trading. We will have client stories and funding stories.

All money raised goes to providing counselling to those who need it most.

Book your ticket now by clicking here

 

White Ribbon day

November 25th is White Ribbon Day read more and make the pledge here

We are running a workshop on Sunday 25th November 10am-1pm, to raise awareness of Domestic Abuse and how we can support people in Domestic Abuse relationships. Delivered by Naomi Watkins.

To find out more and book, click here

Please remember we only have 23 hours left to vote for our Aviva project it takes 2 minutes of your time please vote here

Can you help us?

Can you give us 2 minutes of your time? You could change someones life if you do.

All you have to do is vote for us on The Aviva Community Fund page. Your votes could help us to win funding to provide much needed counselling services, to Children and Young People of Lincolnshire. Vote here

The Daffodil Project will enable NW Counselling Hub to plug a huge gap that leaves vulnerable children & young people unable to access counselling services, often when they hit crisis point after being rejected by other services, or after being told to wait several months for counselling. Should NWCH win AVIVA funds, we will provide free, rapid access counselling for 4 – 25 year olds. PLEASE VOTE using this link

With the funding, NWCH would deliver THE DAFFODIL PROJECT (TDP) to plug a recognised gap in support for 60 children & young people (C&YP) aged 4 – 25 years who have:

* Fallen outside of parameters set by other services to gain access to counselling
* Been told to wait 3+ months for counselling from other services
* Been rejected by other services
* Never previously accessed counselling but found NWCH through our marketing & social media

C&YP who ‘fall through the gap’ can be in desperate need of rapid access counselling, so within 1 – 2 weeks of being referred to NWCH, we will arrange one-to-one therapy with specialist counsellors to address their mental health needs. This can include help with: suicidal ideation, self-harm, trauma from sexual and emotional abuse, anxiety, depression, substance abuse, low self-esteem due to bullying and so forth.

Since April 2017, NWCH has delivered 2147 one-to-one sessions to C&YP aged 4-18, and 3324 to adults. NWCH’s 17 counsellors are BACP members (www.bacp.co.uk), DBS checked, safeguarding trained. 14 specialise in counselling C&YP, as do Toby & Ellie our pet therapy dogs!

NWCH aims to enable CY&P to meet their full potential by preventing further deterioration in their mental health which can occur when waiting months to access therapy whilst undergoing a crisis, or when issues are not dealt with at all.

TDP would enable NWCH to welcome 60 CY&P for approximately 12 sessions each. The project’s scope will enable NWCH to address the wide ranging issues that C&YP bring, and its upper age limit of 25 will enable NWCH to support students referred by Universities and local colleges.
Please help us make a difference and vote today click here

Should you wish to donate to our cause you can do so here

Personality Disorder Training

Why not come to our next workshop on Sunday the 9th September? 10am-4pm

Trainer Profiles:

Yvonne Emmett-Pell

Hi, I’m a Yorkshire lass living in Lincoln! I prefer to be called Von by the way!

I am a qualified Medical Herbalist, Reflexologist, Reiki Master/Teacher with an interest in anything ‘alternative’. I also have an adult teaching certificate and delivered training in my last place of employment. I have severe mental health issues which includes a Personality Disorder and major treatment resistant depression. I live with these everyday although I don’t always see the positives in my life, I have worked hard to manage my mental health by getting involved with LPFT on their train the trainer for the Knowledge and Understanding Framework (KUF) program. I facilitate training for the program on a regular basis which I enjoy even though I find it hard work. I am also the treasurer of Upbeat a local social group. I have co-developed a training package that we deliver to different organisations within Lincolnshire.

My hobbies are following Leeds Rhinos Rugby League Football Club and going to the theatre when I can. I am very open about my mental health issues so if you have any questions of me then please do ask.

Robert Glenton

Hello my is Robert. Not originally from Lincoln but an RAF baby. Through various stages in my life I have sought answers to my own mental health needs and a need for social contact. Originally trained as printer, before qualifying in social worker and working with young offenders. This was followed by a further qualification in beauty therapy. More recently I have undertaken a Train the Trainers course on Raising Awareness of Personality Disorders and a further adult teaching Qualification. I am involved in training at Lincoln University, For LPFT and for Upbeat. I am Chairperson of Upbeat, a Lincoln based Social Group for people with lived experience of Personality Difficulties, as well as being a Trustee of SHINE. I sat on the steering committee for the development of the Psychiatric Intensive Care Unit in Lincoln. I run a Mental Health Facebook Page posting articles, research and information on all aspects of mental health.

I live with complex mental health needs, being diagnosed with a personality disorder, major depression, I hear voices and I am an adult Self-harmer.

I enjoy sports from the comfort of my armchair, developing ideas and projects and Steampunk. I am open about my mental health experiences and sharing knowledge. There are no silly questions.

The days training will cover the following:

Introduction What is personality

What shapes our Personality

How do we define Personality Disorder

Types of Personality Disorder

What are the causes of Personality Disorder – when and why they occur

Personality Disorder – Key Factors

Labelling and Stigmatisation

Personality Disorder Key Facts – Fact or Fiction

Why Should We Help Access to Treatments

Working with the narrative

Treatment Options CBT Mindfulness DBT Counselling Schema Therapy Medication

Costs:
Tickets £80 + Inc VAT for non-members
Tickets £60 + Inc VAT for members

NWCH next training event

Narcissistic/ Borderline Parenting Styles
Why not come to our next workshop on Sunday the 26th of August?

Sarah Squires – Attachment based approach to parental alienation (narcissistic / borderline parenting styles)

Sarah’s background is social work (child protection).  She set up her own business to tackle the issue of parental alienation and disordered parenting from a psycho-social position. She is dedicated to reducing the impact of disordered parenting and parental alienation by providing up to date, evidence based training for professionals working with children and families.

The days training will cover the following:

  • Personality and attachment
  • The driving engine of alienation
  • The role-reversal core
  • Inducing symptoms of parental alienation
  • The trauma re-enactment narrative
  • The child’s experience

Costs:
Tickets £80 + VAT for non-members
Tickets £60 + VAT for members

Managing Change – By Mel Downing

Why not come to our next workshop this Sunday 15th July 10am-1pm

Mel explains about why change is stressful for us, how we resist it and how we can embrace it. She will also talk about the concept of having a Plan B – how that is helpful can actually make us more committed to our Plan A.

Change is an inevitable part of life. They say nothing ceases changing until it ceases to be. Yet we often find the concept of change frightening and resist it. We will look at why that is, what change means to us and how we can embrace it and move with it more comfortably.

A big part of managing change is feeling we have choices. Having a Plan B is a useful tool to allow us to take the reins in how we want out plans to play out. Much controversy is made of having a Plan B. We will look at why that is, what a good Plan B actually is and how we can use it to help us actually be more committed to our Plan A.

This is an interactive and inclusive workshop where shared experiences are welcomed. The aim of the session is to empower you to make decisions based on how you respond to situations, instead of feeling buffeted by obstacles.

Mel Downing is a homeopath and health care advisor, she helps many people move with, and engineer, changes within their lives, health and businesses. Her extensive experience, both personal and professional, will help and encourage you to contact your own inner guidance system and give you back the means to lead your own life. You may be surprised how much change can be welcomed when it worked with rather than being denied or shied away from.

Stress. How to take control.

Mental health awareness week has recently passed and this year it was all about stress, so this month at NWCH we’re looking into what it is, how we can prevent it and the ONE KEY SKILL 
you need for managing it when it strikes.


What is ‘stress’ and where does it come from?

To put it simply, stress is the body’s response to pressures from situations or events in our life.

In cavemen times, the biggest dangers came from short-term threats such as being attacked by a wild animal…

As this didn’t leave much time for consideration, it required an immediate ‘fight or flight’ decision to be made.
To help deal with the caveman’s reaction, the body would release adrenaline and cortisol (now known as the ‘stress’ hormone) to accelerate the heart rate and increase the brains use of glucose, while shutting down the non-essential functions of the body so it could focus solely on the danger.At this point, the cortisol was useful for the body, and as these situations were rare, the body could cope with this level of stress just fine.

In modern life however, we are exposed to stress inducers so frequently that the overexposure to cortisol is disrupting the body’s functions and making us physically and mentally unwell.

 

Okay…but how do we manage it?

Well if stress is simply the level of cortisol that’s being released into the body, it means that to counter balance stress we simply need to reducethe amount of cortisol we’ve got going on in there.

It sounds simple right?

Well, with a little bit of self discipline it can be, and it all comes down to lifestyle.


Our number one stop is  FOOD.

Now think about how you fuel a car…

We’ll say it’s a diesel, and obviously, you want it to run at it’s best performance for your long journey (in human terms we’d call this bit life), if you keep pouring gallons of petrol into it it’s not going to run well and let’s face it it will ultimately break down.

Well the same goes for you!

Humans are designed to run on real, whole foods, full of nutrients and vitamins that help our cogs go round.

If we eat right and fuel right our bodies and brains function better. Fact.

We can rebalance our cortisol levels with the foods we eat as well as decreasing general stress that is caused by a bad diet.

Put it this way, a fully functioning, pain free body is much more likely to be able to cope with a stressful situation than one that is already suffering from headaches, muscle pains, depression, digestive problems, fatigue, colds, high blood pressure, inflammation…the list goes on…and it sounds stressful enough just reading it!

So in with the fresh and healthy, out with the packaged and processed and you’re half way to chilling the hell out!


Foods that contribute to high cortisol levels:

Sugary drinks and sugary snacks

Packaged processed foods

Refined grain products – cereals, white bread, white rice, white flour

Caffeine

Alcohol

Foods that reduce cortisol levels:

Fruits – oranges, berries, tomatoes

Vegetables – bell peppers, dark leafy greens, asparagus

Healthy fats – nuts, seeds, coconut or olive oil

Proteins – eggs, fish, beans

Fibre – wholemeal bread, potatoes, oats, wholewheat pasta

Probiotic foods – yoghurt, kefir,

Green tea, ginger tea, turmeric tea

Got it! Fuel better : Feel better

But what about when the stress strikes and it’s all getting too much?

So it’s one thing to be healthy and prepared, yes, but when tough situations arise or things just keep going wrong, it can be difficult to remain positive and calm.

It’s easy to get wrapped up in the distress of the problem but this is when we let our emotions take over.

Learn this one key skill and you can start to take control when stress strikes.

 


STOPP

It goes a little like this…

S topp

T ake a breath

O bserve              What am I thinking? What am I reacting to?
What am I feeling in my body?

P ull back
Put in some perspective and see the bigger picture.
Is it fact or opinion? How would someone else see this?

P roceed
What’s the best thing to do for me?
What’s the best thing to do for others?
What’s the best thing for this situation?

Follow these steps as soon as you feel yourself reacting to a trigger and answer these questions in your head. (You can print or write down the sequence on a small card and carry it with you at all times)
Saying the word ‘stop’ instantly creates space between the problem and your reaction
Deeper breathing calms the body and mind
Processing the answers takes the focus away from your emotions and enables you to make a more rational and logical move.

Read the sequence often so you become familiar with the steps and start by using it for small upsets. Gradually you’ll find you can use it for more intense situations and this calming process will become automatic.